Seventh Commandment = being faithful in marriage


Matt 19:16-17 (Using the NKJ)  Now behold, one came and said to Him, "Good Teacher, what good thing shall I do that I may have eternal life?"  17  So He said to him, "Why do you call Me good? No one is good but One, that is, God. But if you want to enter into life, keep the commandments." (So keeping the Ten Commandments is a matter of eternal life)


However, Christ’s answer was not good enough for this man, even though it seems that it should have been, but he went on with his questions and Christ brought out a specific point in this context, dealing with the 7th Commandment. The man said to Jesus; V.18--- "Which ones?" Jesus said," 'You shall not murder,' 'You shall not commit adultery,' 'You shall not steal,' 'You shall not bear false witness,”-- so we see that Christ covered the 7th Commandment in his answer, along with most of the other commandments that show love to neighbor.

We can note it back in V. 3 of Matt 19: “The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?"  (So here is the basis of these questions and the same thing applies in the reverse and can be said of women. Is it “lawful” for a Christian woman to divorce her husband for just “any reason”?) Christ had already covered this several chapters previously, in the same gospel of Matthew and in chapter 5:31-32; "Furthermore it has been said, 'Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.' 32 "But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.” 


So here again we see marriage and the 7th Commandment linked together. (Some women seem to have the dumb idea that this does not apply to them in the same way, but it does.) The seventh Commandment was to protect the sanctity of marriage, and the two were to have a bond of trust and honor between them. However the marriage bond was to even protect from the man or woman’s own physical family members and their influence. (Gen.2:24) They were to leave those family members in order to begin to build a new family and be at one with each other, following the role each was given in this new family. (1Cor11:3) This would apply in any marriage if we are truly trying to be Christian. Note what Christ said, again in Matt 19:4-6; “And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' 5  and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? (TOO many today do not want to do what Christ is saying here, because they want to do things their own way. Too many today remain more loyal to the self or perhaps other physical family than they do to the other partner in marriage.)  6 "So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man (or woman or children or in-laws) separate."


“Mankind separate” is the intended meaning here, applying to anyone, once the marriage covenant is made. It certainly would apply to both parties in the marriage, because either one could cause the other to commit adultery, when not faithful to those wedding vows, perhaps even causing them to leave the home in search of peace & comfort elsewhere. This has been the basis for many divorces today and divorce without real cause is now even being allowed to happen in the COG realm, simply because the law allows it. Divorces for just “any reason” are allowed right in the COG and these instructions for marriage and the sanctity that the 7th Commandment would provide the marriage, is also being torn apart and disregarded by the watering down of this Biblical teaching.

(It is a sad thing to see the new rulings on the sanctity of marriage, coming down from the supreme court of the land, allowing same sex marriages will further deteriorate the state of marriage and has brought on this country further wrath from God. But then again we, as a nation, have proven over and over that we are no longer a Godly nation and will reap the consequences. It is too bad this mindset is now affecting the COG members as well and many in the COG are also in a state of degeneration. (Heb.5:12-14 & Rev.3:14-19)


The apostle Paul was inspired to write about this as well, and we find his instruction in several places, as well as the writings of others in the NT. Let us note this passage found in 1 Cor.7:10-11; “Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.” Why was Paul teaching this? Rom 7:1-3 “Or do you not know, brethren (for I speak to those who know the law), that the law has dominion over a man as long as he lives? 2  For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. 3  So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man.”


Can an angry and an unthoughtful demand for divorce begin to cause a separation in the mind? In Strong’s Greek/Hebrew dictionary or your concordance, this is what is found for those words; “5563  chorizo (kho-rid'-zo); from 5561; to place room between, i.e. part; reflexively, to go away: KJV-- depart, put asunder, separate.” So at first glance, this would indicate the one who leaves or goes away —but is that accurate and according to what the Bible teaches? Let us take a second and more thorough look. This deals more with the marriage and the break-up of it, which could then lead to adultery. For the word “man” in that same verse, we find this from Vine's Expository Dictionary of Biblical Words;  MAN (SEE ALSO MEN)     1. anthropos ^444^ is used (a) generally, of "a human being, male or female," without reference to sex or nationality,--“ 


Various things can apply here, such as in-laws or the family members of one side (or both) butting into the marriage and driving a wedge between the husband and wife. But the most common is for one in the “marriage covenant” to do this and begin to hurt their marriage. Paul says, and we have already read; that “a wife is not to depart from her husband”—1Cor.7:10. The word for “depart” is this same word “chorizo” meaning to place room between—or to begin to divide (push) away from the other! In the JFB commentary on this we find; “1 Corinthians 7:10  [Let not the wife depart]-- `separate herself, ' or `be separated from. ' This seems to agree with Scriptural revelation and that neither party is to begin to separate themselves from the other in the marriage without the reasons given.


So when a woman or a man decides, maybe even demands a divorce just to get out of the marriage;— for just “any reason”—this is considered “unlawful” for a Christian. This begins to place “room between” them, can be considered as broken marriage vows (See Broken Vows) in the other mates mind! Even if no divorce happens right away, damage has now been done, trust is broken and needs to be restored.

The COG has come to understand that in similar situations as has been mentioned herein, one party in a marriage can actually have “departed” –-brought about “separation”—actually left the marriage in their mind long before any actual divorce ever occurs, if it even does. One mate can also drive the other away and that also happens in many cases.


No matter how it comes about, breaking the 7th Commandment can cause divorce, but also a break-down in the marriage covenant can cause the breaking of the 7th Commandment. God is testing us (In the COG—1Pet.4:17) by what we do or even think to do in this life, once being called and chosen!

To have and enjoy a sound Spiritual life, we must set ourselves to keep all of the Commandments of God in this physical life, even in hard trials. Our commitment to God, Christ and their ways must come first and is also based on trust. We must have our priorities in order and our relationship with our mate has to come next. When we let our priorities get out of order, we are in trouble and do not follow the lead of the Spirit of God. This must be realized and corrected in the mind before we can be made Spirit to live forever. The breaking of the 7th Commandment is a sin, no matter how it comes about, but it will also affect the sanctity & bond of marriage.

                                                          (editor of TCOGMSO)


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